Probate can be one of the most frustrating things to deal with. It takes a lot of time to sort out. For example, it has been about 18 months since my dad died, and they recently postponed the final hearing for yet another 2 months for minor things such as my cousin moving because he got a new job. Really crazy stuff like that. One thing I DID learn was that both Michael and I were stuck in limbo waiting for that money to come. It has taken longer and longer, and the amount has gotten smaller. So we both made a DECISION. To accept the money when it comes, and to live in the NOW.
What do I mean by that? I mean we will do what we can to work on our goals now while we are still in California. We will also be looking at was to cut expenses even more and focus on investing more seed money to help our business grow. But mainly it is a MINDSET change. Instead of letting the money that is currently tied up in Probate affect us so much, we accept that it will be there when it is and not be worrying or anxious about setbacks in getting it. Instead we do what we can with what we have, and once the money is here then we will move.
Yes we are MOVING to another state, Tennessee. This is for both personal and business reasons. California is our home state and we do love it, BUT it is very expensive to live here and buying a house here is totally out of the ball park. Besides that my sister in spirit Cat lives in TN. She is not only dear to me personally, but she has written many books which our publishing company will be publishing for her. Living near her will make that process a lot easier.
Since making that DECISION to live in the NOW, great things have started to happen, opportunities that were not there before are here now. Also our productivity level and creativity has increased ten fold. We also feel freer and like a massive weight is gone from us.
Have you ever made a DECISION that made a major impact on your life? If so, feel free to share with me in the comment section, I would love to hear about YOU.
After trying a few things, I turned to writing which is something I love to do. I published my first book on Amazon which is the first of many. Out of the Rut and into the Running is a short non fiction book. In it, I cover what ruts are, why we stay in them, and how to get out of them and into the running. If you would like to buy a copy of it you can go to the link for it under My Books.
I will be writing many other books, both fiction and non fiction. I will share about them along the way. Out of the Rut has a special place in my heart, not only because it was the first book, but because it was published before my dad died. He was so proud of me for accomplishing the goal of being a writer, even though it was not the kind of books he read, he supported me all the way.
Due to a lot of things that have been happening since I wrote Out of the Rut, including losing my dad and a young cousin on my mom/s side, I am taking a break from the rest of the books in the Rut series and switching to fiction for a while. I will be writing light fiction such as cozy mysteries and light romance books for the next few months or so.
I am currently working on the first book of a cozy mystery series. My protagonist (main character) is Fiona Donahue. She inherits after her parents pass away and uses the money to set up her business which is a coffee shop called Jammin’ Java. They do both self serve regular coffee with free refills and gourmet coffee orders. The upstairs portion of the building which used to have another store, she turned into a 1 bedroom apartment for herself and her cats. She also added a garage for her car, her bicycle, and extra storage.
More about Lethal Latte to come in future posts so stay tuned.
I had several ups and downs in looking at setting up my own business online. There were scams of course that I got burnt by, as well as wonderful and genuine people who helped me along the way. I even found love which was something I had pretty much given up on entirely ever having again.
Two groups which really helped me learn a lot were Family Networker and Talk Marketing Now. FN provided me with connections and a great deal of knowledge about marketing and how to brand myself. Their classes helped me tremendously with how list building works and why it is so important. They taught me how to make connections with people, and to brand myself. And they introduced me to TMN a small online radio station where I met the love of my life.
In addition to meeting and getting to know Michael Thorsett, George gave me my own show, and several of the other show hosts there had a great deal of confidence in me even though I felt I was the “new girl”. I learned that you can move forward with something even if you feel like you still have a lot more to learn. Being from an educational background, teaching is easy for me. So I built on that strength. Because of my background, being a leader is also very natural to me. Again another strength I could add to my foundation.
In getting to know Michael through TMN, it became very obvious we had similar business interests and goals. We also had a strong love of writing and teaching. Both of us were strong in the area of mindset and personal development. Some of our skills overlapped, and some skills were different. Which led to discussions of joint ventures and even a business partnership in many talks on Skype. Along with that, romance bloomed. A few months later he told me of his feelings and we got together in November, 2011. Then in March 2012 he moved in with me and we have been living together ever since. Now we are engaged to be married and moving on with our business together.
Update: This was how I felt at that time. I still feel this way about most of the people I met at that time, who to this day keep supporting me and helping me with rebuilding my life and building my new business. However Michael and I are no longer together. More about this later.