I attended three different colleges over a period of many years. After I graduated from high school, I went to Modesto Junior College. After a couple of years there where I was getting my lower division requirements done, I had my first detour in my college education.
I became pregnant with my son Ben. When he was 7 months old, I became a single mom. School was on the back burner for many years and I focused solely on raising him.
When he went into first grade, I went back to college at California State University, Stanislaus. I was at first a Psychology major, but I quickly decided to go for a double major to prepare to be an elementary school teacher. Transportation was a major challenge for me, since I am unable to drive because of my vision. I spent about 4 hours a day on buses to get back and forth to college, while juggling school and being a single parent of a child with special needs. My mother was an incredible help in this process.
To prepare for the Multiple Subject teaching credential, I switched to Liberal Studies and Psychology double major. I had the education track requirements, the new CLADD requirements, and my concentration in Exceptional Child and Youth. I finally switched to a minor in Psychology. While I was attending college, my son was switched from being in a regular classroom to a non public school for children with special needs, and had two surgeries. It took several years to finally finish my BA.
Then came my second detour. My fiance passed away at the same time my mother’s health seriously deteriorated. At this time, my son graduated from the 8th grade and there was no school that would provide what he needed for high school. I left school and moved in with my mother to take care of her and homeschool my son. Then in December of 2005, my son passed away. My mom died a year later.
After working through my grief, and moving to San Jose where the public transit system was much better, I started my teaching credential at San Jose State University. My plan was to get my Multiple Subject credential, and then open my own educational consulting business. Halfway through the program, that door was slammed in my face. California laid off over 20 thousand teachers to help balance the budget, and I was let go from the program.
So now I am once again reinventing myself and starting a new journey. I do not regret any of the twists and turns along the way. All are valuable lessons and experiences. No matter what happens along the way, you can move forward and not remain stuck. You need to not blame the circumstances, but learn from then and find a new path when you run into a dead end. I have done it many times and you can too.